Love guru shares her secrets

Discover the secrets to unlocking your own love story with Ideal Introductions Director and Redcliffe local Linda Prescott.

Linda’s expertise over the past 30 years as a matchmaker has directly transformed thousands of lives and redefined the way we think about dating and relationships – and now she’s sharing her knowledge with our readers.

The art of flirting on dates

Flirting creates connections through friendly conversation and positive gestures, which hopefully can lead to lasting relationships.

• Begin by being approachable with a warm smile and friendly demeanour creating a relaxed vibe. If you’re nervous, own it! Simply say something like… “I was really nervous coming here to meet you today” … This shows vulnerability and will instantly break the ice.
• Show genuine interest by asking open-ended questions, actively listening to responses, always looking for the connections.
• Use light-hearted humour to keep the conversation engaging. If there’s laughter, you know you’re having a good time and naturally flirting, even if you don’t realise it.
• Confidence is attractive, and being confident comes with being comfortable. When we take the pressure off ourself for a person to be the one, our guard comes down and we relax.
• Body language is key, so have fun with it, lean in towards your date, and make eye contact.
• Flirtatious touches are a subtle cue you are interested and it also says you are open for the same in return. A gentle arm or wrist touch is ideal, gauging their body language, always respecting personal boundaries.
• Compliments are great, but only one and make it genuine. If you give more than one, it can seem disingenuous and some people are just not used to them.

Flirting is a playful dance, so embrace it and simply just enjoy the journey of getting to know someone new.

How to get through a break-up

• Allow yourself to feel: It's okay to experience a rollercoaster of emotions after a breakup. Allow yourself to cry, vent, feel confusion, anger or laughter – whatever helps you process.
• Reach out for support: Lean on your support system of friends, family, or even a counsellor who can offer guidance and comfort during this difficult time.
• Reflect on the relationship: Take the opportunity to learn from the past and understand what you want and need differently in future relationships. Sometimes we mourn for what could have been, rather than what it actually was. Some relationships run their course.
• Prioritise self-care: Invest time and energy into activities that are good for your body and mind. Get healthy and happy. Get that single glow back!
• Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with your ex-partner to protect your emotional well-being to allow healing. If you don’t need to be in contact – don’t!
• Pursue your positive passions: Reconnect with hobbies, interests, and even old friends that bring you joy.
• Stay hopeful: Trust that with time and self-love, you will move forward from this experience stronger and more aware than before.

There really is light at the end of the tunnel and you will find your person if you are brave, put yourself back out there and believe.